High 5s for Mentors

15 12 2012

Nearly eleven years ago now, God brought a young man, Bill Lewis,  into my life that little did I know then, would end up being my best friend, financial coach, and Business Mentor. Bill had been involved in a Leadership Company called TEAM and introduced us to the founder  Orrin Woodward. We are very excited to be a part of the recently launched mentorship program called LIFE.  Some would think that an “older man” would be the one to look up to for coaching and mentoring. That is certainly not the case today. Some recent past Presidents have tarnished the thought of being the older, wiser, example set for our children to follow.

So, what is the big deal about a mentor you ask…

Younger men want and need the blessing of an older man to breathe life into them and develop a noble leader that exposes the leadership abilities that God has instilled in  them at birth. At some point, sons must leave the mentorship of dad to become a man. With a greater that 50% divorce rate for first marriages, most children grow up without the mentorship of a father. How do I know that you ask, I am a father who has suffered wounds from a failed first marriage, leaving a son to be raised mostly without the coaching of his father. He and I have both paid the price for that choice.

Bill Lewis, a much younger man than myself, has helped me to mend those wounds, restore my faith, and forgive myself, just like Christ has forgiven each of us. Understand that a “mentor” does not have to be an older man.

Mentors are specialists. A mentor is one who supports rather than competing with you. A mentor is one who is primarily a cheerleader and not a critic. A mentor is one who sees what is right and good in you, and identifying your strengths. A mentor is one who encourages the development of your gifts while seeking to protect you from costly mistakes.  Bill helped me understand that paying interest on items that depreciate is a costly mistake. Buying and leasing new cars, trading them in every three years, paying for beautiful RVs that made us feel good to keep up with every other camper was very costly. Sometimes truth is alarming, but it is still the truth.

A mentor is one who admires and delights in you because he instinctively recognizes your value and untapped potential. A mentor does not have to necessarily have to be a close friend, but he will be a confidant. A mentor will teach you wisdom through experience. A mentor will have belief in you and give cheers for your achievements. A mentor in some instances is truly a proven hero.

To quote Exodus 18:19-20 Hearken now unto my voice, I will give thee counsel. and God shall be with thee. Be thou for the people to God-ward, that thou mayest bring the cause unto God. And thou shalt teach them ordinances and laws, and shalt show them the way wherein they must walk, and work that they must do. Moses clearly had a gift to share with others. That is where “Iron sharpens Iron” comes from.

A mentor chooses to cultivate a relationship with you. He is willing to take a chance on you and he is respected by others. A mentor has a network of resources and is consulted by others. A mentor is as good a listener as he is a talker and is consistent in his lifestyle.

A mentor is concerned with your interests and is able to diagnose your needs. Younger mentors like Orrin Woodward and Bill Lewis give older men like myself a restored purpose that we can serve the second half our life that adds the satisfaction that is missing from an older mans life. We all need mentors…….

Do you know what the potholes in your life are?

It is a poor man that goes through life without letting a few men inside.

God Bless

Brian

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“Trust” You Must Change Your Mind

26 10 2012

Having become a student of leadership, I recently read an article posted by my personal mentor and coach, Bill Lewis. Bill is mentored by Orrin Woodward, who received the top leadership award for 2011 from the IAB. Trust is certainly what our nation has lost. In order to restore trust, you must change your mind! I trust you will enjoy his article below.

GOD Bless

Brian

Trust

I know this subject is talked to death but it is the most important one in developing any successful relationship.  Spousal, children and business partner relationships are all forged on the anvil of trust.  If the anvil is weak then the relationships will be forged in weakness and eventually fall apart.  If the anvil is strong then the relationship will be equally strong.   Think about when someone asks you, “Do you trust that person?”  That’s a strong question because it also speaks to your ability to evaluate people.  So, what we are going to dig into is a few ways that you could be losing trust?

Becoming trusted also requires reciprocity, awillingness on both sides to enter into dialouge and conversation.  It takes time, because while trust may sometimes be forged in moments of great drama, it is more likely to be formed by many small, moment-to-moment encounters.

Kouzes and Posner in

I believe the quote you just read is implying that most people think about trust from this perception.  When a big event happens and we display our trustworthyness that that is it but there is also the day to day events where you could be losing your friends trust.  Worst yet you could be losing trust with yourself.

Is your behavior predictable or erratic?

I would guess that most people wouldn’t expect this question to determine your trustworthyness but let’s take a look.  Think about the person you know that is always erratic in how they respond, how they feel, or how they act.  It becomes hard to know how they will behave so that makes us uneasy.  Consistency of action and reaction is what makes people feel secure with us.  Let me give you a personal example.  I was erratic with my mood. I would let situations control my reactions.  Someone would call me while I was eating and I would answer the phone and I sounded like that person just spit on my sandwich. “Helloooooooo!”  I am sure my tone sounded like, “What are you calling me for.  Don’t you know I am eating.”  I am sure it sounded like that because that was what I was thinking.  The next time they called me I would be like, “Hello :) :):):):):):)”  sounding like, “I have been waiting for you to call.”  Now, after a few times of this teeter-totter that person just stopped calling.  Whether your in business, speaking to your spouse, or  talking to your kids no one feels comfortable with erratic responses.  What areas of your life are inconsistent?  The more inconsistent we are the weaker our bond will be with people.

Do you communicate clearly or carelessly?

What we are talking about here is do you make promises and then don’t keep them.  Do you do what you say you are going to do no matter what?  This one is interesting because the people that violate it the most don’t do so intentionally, however,wether they realize it or not, they are still causing the foundation of trust to crumble.  You see, when you tell people you are going to do something, be somewhere at a certain time, have something done, etc… in your mind you might have good intentions but to the other person it was a promise.  If a promise isn’t kept then the other person starts to lose trust with you in that situation.  If it happens enough times you might start to erode their overall trust.  The key here is under-promise and over deliver.  The next step is to start determining why you do this: Are you trying to feel involved, are you a people pleaser, do you over extend yourself, not plan enough, don’t have the skill to do what is being asked of you.  Whatever the reason is we need to identify and fix it before we damage relationships.

Are we forthright and candid or are we deceptive and dishonest?

Basically are you intentionally lying or are you telling the truth.  It’s shocking how easy it is to get to the point that lying seems easier then telling the truth but in the long run it creates more havoc.  I have seen people get to the point that they lie so much they believe their own lie.  This one will obviously destroy relationships.  We need to figure out why we do it.  Are we afraid of what the other person will think? Are we afraid of what we will have to face? Have we convinced ourselves that it is easier to lie then change the thing we are lying about?  Whatever it is I can guarantee you that the statement,”The truth shall set you free” is correct.  If it wasn’t the statement wouldn’t exist.

I have been very blessed to be able to associate with people like,Orrin Woodward and Chris Brady, who have shown me what it is like to totally trust someone.  Not only what they say and do but their motives as well.  I hope you are blessed to find someone who can help you establish a firm foundation of trust.

God Bless

Bill Lewis 





Who is the Hero?

25 05 2012

In the book “Pointman”, recommended by my friend and leadership expert Orrin Woodward, much of our society’s issues become more clear. The author of the book, Steve Farrar, begins with a fantastic analogy, placing the reader in the jungles of the Vietnam War. You are the one responsible today for your patrol’s safety. Today, you are the “point man” to insure Americas Freedom for the future. We live in a world today where most have lost their Mental Toughness. The real war goes on in our own mind. A lack of mental toughness you might say.

The recently released “Mental Fitness Challenge” by the LIFE Founders Orrin Woodward, Chris Brady, Tim Marks, Bill Lewis, George Guzardo, Claude Hamilton, and Dan Hawkins, is taking the USA and Canada by storm. The P90X for your brain! A real life assessment of your Mental Fitness developed by two of the Top Leadership Experts in the world, Orrin Woodward (#6) and Chris Brady (#11). As Orrin has pointed out, so much education today, yet so little wisdom. Our Nation’s Founding Fathers were Mentally Tough!

What is the Mental Fitness Challenge?

A program that will cover the 13 Resolutions for a better life laid out by Orrin Woodward in his new book “Resolved”

Created to help you “live the life you’ve always wanted” this 90 day Mental Fitness Challenge is the oil change for your brain. Our Nations need Leadership and that begins with an assessment of your mental toughness. It is Fun, Fast and Easy. Everyone is a leader at some point in their life. Leadership is influence, nothing more, nothing less.

My friend and Co-Founder of LIFE, Bill Lewis has become an incredible leader and coach to hundreds of people all across the USA and Canada. I’m certain he would tell you that it is a direct result of the mentoring he has received from the two master minds behind this Mental Fitness Challenge.

Best Selling Author  John Maxwell states, “everything rises and falls on leadership”

It has been said that everyone wants to change the world, but few feel the need to change themselves. NFL Football star and Author Tim Tebow is a great example of a man of true leadership. He has developed a “Mental Toughness ” that far exceeds all of his critiques. Talk about “mental toughness”, I encourage you to read his book “Through my Eyes”. It is nothing less than amazing!

GOD has planted the seeds of mental toughness in each and every one of us. We are all destined for greatness and you can live the life you have always wanted.

I encourage you, take the mental fitness challenge. http://www.mental-fitness-challenge.com. You are the Pointman for your children’s free America tomorrow. The Pointmen of today must develop the mental toughness to be tomorrows Hero’s!

Your children are counting on you………

GOD Bless

Brian





Dream Chasers

23 01 2012

In his now famous CD “Nobodies can be Somebodies”,(Team 323) Orrin Woodward shares the importance of having a dream. This upcoming weekend will mark the culmination of nearly 20 years of a man chasing his dream while restoring the belief in hundreds of thousands of others, that they too can have a dream come true. In 1999 Orrin Woodward and Chris Brady witnessed a presentation by Michael Dell at the Detroit Economics Club. Michael Dells key point in the presentation was the importance of community. At that moment Orrin knew his dream would become a reality.

In 1999 Orrin and Chris founded a Leadership and Personal Development organization called TEAM. The purpose of Team was to find and develop a community of leaders with a dream. Orrin and Laurie Woodward have dedicated their life to fulfill a dream of restoring the foundational and biblical principles our great nations were founded upon.

Together, Chris and Orrin have authored or co-authored no less than 8 books. Their 4th book “Launching a Leadership Revolution” is a New York Times Best Seller.  These two gentlemen have scoured the United States and Canada and have assembled a Policy Council of Leaders across our nations that will come together to hold the first LIFE International Leadership Convention in Ohio and California this weekend.

Read for yourself what Chris Brady had to say about a recent accomplishment of Orrins. Yesterday I received an innocuous email seemingly no different from the other 100 that come in on a daily basis.  I opened it with no more anticipation than one opens a phone bill.  But as I read through its contents I was warmed by its announcement that my friend and business partner Orrin Woodward had received the prestigious IAB Top Small Business Award Top Leadership Website for 2011.  IAB is the International Association of Businesses, a worldwide membership of business owners more than 1 million members strong.  For this year’s award, Orrin Woodward was up against the likes of leadership giants such as Jim Collins, John Maxwell, Stephen Covey, Ken Blanchard, Tony Robbins, and Jack Welch, among others.  It is an incredible honor just to be among such icons of the industry, but to finish first is absolutely impressive.

These incredible men and their wives have become the pinnacle of Leadership today.  

Dan and Lisa Hawkins, George and Jill Guzzardo, Claude and Lana Hamilton, Bill and Jackie Lewis, Tim and Amy Marks, Chris and Terri Brady, Rob and Susie Hallstrand, and Orrin and Laurie Woodward are the LIFE Founders that have built the leadership community that Michael Dell spoke of.

Ten years ago, my wife Sherry and I were introduced to this group by a young man from Saginaw Michigan, Bill Lewis. It was clear to me Bill had a dream. Bill helped me to see that even though I was doing what I loved to do, GOD had bigger plans for us. We have been honored to work with this incredible organization and are fired up about attending the first International LIFE Leadership Convention.

What we have come to understand is that many folks have lost belief that there is something else out there or that they have what it takes to be successful.

In a recent book authored by John Maxwell titled “Put Your Dream to The Test”, John asks 10 questions that we must answer to determine if we really are living our own dreams or are we the catalyst for others to accomplish their dreams.

Make no mistake, there will be a “Muskavilla” somewhere where it is warm. Leaders like Jason Tingley and Roy and Brenda Hatcher have become part of a team of people known as the Musketeers”. Together we have a vision to insure our children and grandchildren will be “Somebodies” and be incouraged to DREAM!!

See you in Columbus Dreamers

GOD Bless

Brian








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